I don’t know when it happened, but I’ve become a walking, talking shibboleth.
A shibboleth is a word or custom that signifies who is in the ingroup and who is in the outgroup. Think of it as an old fashioned version of virtue signaling.
Now, I didn’t personally become a shibboleth, but the fact that I am gay and in a same sex marriage does make me shibboleth in our neverending culture wars. How one views same sex marriage either makes your virtuous or a sinner.
This past week, the pastor and author Eugene Peterson was interviewed this past week by journalist Jonathan Merritt. Peterson is a well-known author and is most known for his version of the Bible, the Message. During the interview, Merritt asked Peterson about his views on gays and lesbians in the church and if he would perform a same sex marriage. Here’s what he said (the words of Merritt are in bold):
I wouldn’t have said this 20 years ago, but now I know a lot of people who are gay and lesbian and they seem to have as good a spiritual life as I do. I think that kind of debate about lesbians and gays might be over. People who disapprove of it, they’ll probably just go to another church. So we’re in a transition and I think it’s a transition for the best, for the good. I don’t think it’s something that you can parade, but it’s not a right or wrong thing as far as I’m concerned.
RNS: A follow-up: If you were pastoring today and a gay couple in your church who were Christians of good faith asked you to perform their same-sex wedding ceremony, is that something you would do?
This set off alarm bells among evangelicals who are some of his fans and it caused people to speculate about his motivations. Writing in First Things, Samuel James thought his change of heart was about trying to be accepted by a changing society:
Says Peterson, “I wouldn’t have said this twenty years ago, but now I know a lot of people who are gay and lesbian and they seem to have as good a spiritual life as I do. I think that kind of debate about lesbians and gays might be over.” Why is the “debate” over? Because the LGBT people Peterson knows are good, spiritual people. How can that knowledge—not the knowledge of doctrine, but the knowledge of human beings—comport with an antiquated definition of chastity and marriage? What use are theological disputations when it comes to looking real gays and lesbians in the face, living with and loving them, and affirming their humanity and worth?
The question for our generation is increasingly not, “Is this doctrine true or false?” Rather, the question is, “Can I live with it out there?”
He continues rather pointedly:
What I wish people like Eugene Peterson would see is that there is no safe corner of the Christian story that is completely intuitive or unfailingly neighborly. Every element of the Gospel can and will grate against our modern sense of “real life.” If the doctrine of marriage is untenable in “real life,” what doctrines are tenable? “Real life” doesn’t teach us to desire the good of our enemies. It teaches us to shame them, on either Puritan scaffolds or progressive college campuses. “Real life” doesn’t support the notion that justice will ultimately prevail. It reinforces our sense that we must kill or be killed. There’s no intersection of Christ and culture that finally finds both running parallel all the way to glory.
Russell Moore wrote a more softer article expressing disapointment, but also seeing that good that Peterson has brought to his life.
His statement was could have cost him literally. Lifeway, the national Christian bookstore chain, was ready to stop selling Peterson’s books in their stores.
The rancor made him retract his words a short time later. He wrote:
“I affirm a biblical view of marriage: one man to one woman. I affirm a biblical view of everything. . . . When put on the spot by this particular interviewer, I said yes in the moment. But on further reflection and prayer, I would like to retract that. That’s not something I would do out of respect to the congregation, the larger church body, and the historic biblical Christian view and teaching on marriage. That said, I would still love such a couple as their pastor. They’d be welcome at my table, along with everybody else.”
He might have been recieved back into the good graces of evangelicals, but now he pissed off progressive Christians who saw him as greedy, feeble-minded or uncaring. Rachel Held Evans apologized to the LGBTQ community for Peterson’s reversal.
Another writer said Peterson was selfish and greedy:
A man who wrote one of the most popular interpretations of the Bible said my son and his peers are equal. So equal that he would perform wedding ceremonies for them. A bookstore chain run by a Christian denomination says it will cost him money. When he realizes it will cost him money, my son’s life does not matter.
Equality does not matter to him. Civil rights does not matter. Bullycide does not matter. Suicidal ideations, increased violence and sexual assault to LGBTQIA youth does not matter. What matters is the bottom line of the bank account.
Now, let’s take a look at who runs this bookstore chain? The SBC was founded in the 1840’s to protect their precious Bible from the threat of abolitionists. That’s right, to them slavery was biblical. More recently the SBC made the news because they had controversy over an issue. That issue? Should they condemn the actions and philosophies of the alt right.
The SBC is the nation’s largest protestant denomination. Historically founded to fight for slavery as a biblical principle. This same group had to discuss the merits of condemning white supremacists. They are also anti LGBTQIA. And they own a chain of bookstores.
This is who Eugene Peterson relies on to sell his Bibles. He needs their money more than he needs the strength of conviction to say my son is equal.
As a gay Christian man in a same sex marriage, I have to call bullshit on both sides.
For conservatives, it seems like people are willing to love and adore a pastor’s teachings- as long as he adheres to their viewpoint. If he doesn’t he is to be treated as if he said Jesus was equal to Bozo the Clown.
But Progressives don’t fare better. They loved this guy the moment he said his initial statement, but when he retracted, people were swearing to never use the Message Bible and deem him a greedy SOB who doesn’t care LGBTQ persons are dying.
This is why I say I am now a shibboleth. How you look at me and my marriage determines whether a group will love you or condemn you.
Would I have like him to stick to his guns on same sex marriage? Yes. Am I dissapointed that he retracted? Yes. But that’s one flaw in a person that has a lot of good to share.
As gay rights move forward in our society, we aren’t learning to live and let live. All of the knives are out and we are looking for someone to say anything that is against their views and getting ready to punish that person.
To conservative Christians: what does it say that you seem to be willing to just dump someone because of one paragraph in an interview? Is it more important that he follow toe the line on this issue than it is to judge his whole character?
And now progressive Christians: What happened to grace? What happened to praying for someone like Peterson, for courage and strength? Are you going to stop reading his books for one stupid loss of nerve?
It feels like people on both sides are playing for keeps and there is very, very little room for love. Peterson stopped being a flesh and blood and imperfect human being and became the latest pawn in the culture wars. As a tweetstorm said this week, “We see people as collections of beliefs and ideas, which makes it easy to avoid seeing the whole person.”
In the real world, I know people who I know think I’m engaged in sin. And I think they are very wrong. But I still keep relationship with them because it is important to see them as more than their view on this one issue. There is a lot that we can agree on beyond sexuality.
No matter if we are evangelicals or mainline Christians, we are called to love one another. And that means loving people even when we disagree.
Love doesn’t excuse sin, but it should make us look at each other differently. Let’s put down the shibboleths and learn to love one another.
This was a good, thoughtful article, and it helped me think better about my own reactions to those in our body of Christ who don’t see things like I see them.
I thank you for that, and I thank you for a very interesting study/application on an old term “shibboleth.”
Many blessings to you.